Sunday, January 31, 2010

To Lift Up or To Push Down

 

Thousands of years ago, a group of concerned people sent a delegation to inquire of the prophets whether or not they should continue their tradition of mourning and fasting on certain months of the year. Instead of giving a clear "yes" or "no" answer, God (through one of the prophets) asked them, "Was it really for me that you were fasting? Was it not for your own sakes?" The prophet then went on the share further words that he had received, " Judge fairly, and show mercy and kindness to one another. Do not oppress widows, orphans, foreigners, and the poor. And do not scheme against each other."  (emphasis mine)

For the past couple of days I've been mulling that over in my mind, especially the part about not oppressing widows, orphans, foreigners and the poor. I looked up the word oppress in the dictionary this morning  and found that it means "to keep down by harsh and unjust treatment, to weigh heavily on." It comes from a Latin word meaning to press against.

I think that most of us, at first thought, would say that we are not doing anything to oppress the widows, the orphans, the foreigners or the poor. But sometimes I think it's more important to look at what we are  not doing than what we are doing. I can't just say that I'm not oppressing anyone, pat myself on the back and continue on my merry way. What is it that I'm not doing, that is causing someone to be pushed down? Or, to put it another way, what could I be doing that would cause a widow, orphan, foreigner or poor person to not be so pushed down?

I can think of a whole list of things. For instance, yesterday a friend bought stickers from a little boy on the street and gave them to my boys because she has a big heart. I, on the other hand, brushed him away when he tried to sell them to me. Or the beggar who I ignored because I just didn't feel like digging in my bag at the moment to find some food to share but my son really wanted to give the rest of his chocolate bar to. Or I think of a friend of  mine who is adopting a little one from Ethiopia, even though their family really cannot afford it. Or the immigrants in my home area who once told me they were shocked and hurt their first year in America, when no one invited them into their homes on the holidays.  They came from a culture that is very warm and hospitable, quite happy to take in strangers and share with them. Or some folks I just met who are helping a Burmese refuge family adapt to life in America.

I'm convinced that no matter where in the world we find ourselves, there will be widows, orphans, foreigners and poor around us. We are either lifting them up or pushing them down. There is no middle ground.

I confess I've been so tired lately, so worn out that I  have felt I couldn't care about anyone else. I'm a person who feels deeply so when I get to the point I can't feel anymore, it's a little freaky and I usually have to take some time and figure out what is going on. So I must say, it's good to feel again, even if it is feeling deeply sad, feeling regretful for not lifting up those who crossed my path. 

I came across a metaphor recently that really stuck with me. It was something about us each having our own knapsack to carry but every now and then someone has a huge boulder to carry and needs our help. I think the list of people I have been mentioning live with constant boulder to carry, a load that I could do a little something (or a big something) about. 

To lift up or to push down? It's a no-brainer. Why do I make it harder than it is?



Thursday, January 28, 2010

Storing Up Treasures: Love is an ACTION word

 These are not my words, but they echo the whispers in the wind that has been swirling around me, feather-soft whispers across my heart as I dream... and wait... and wonder...

Enjoy!


Storing Up Treasures: Love is an ACTION word

Monday, January 18, 2010

Birthday Boy


Full of energy, enthusiasm and smiles, mischief dances in his eyes and lurks behind those dimples. His name means a courageous cheerful one. It fits.


I can't believe my baby is 6 years old! His birthday came on the day we arrived back from our Darjeeling trip. I was grateful to a friend who had sent me a cake mix - just the perfect thing to turn out a quick treat. Riley was happy because he got to help bake and decorate it. We called it a mud cake because of all the gummy worms that are buried under those candles. Who needs a fancy bakery cake? Sometimes a little fun with Mom in the kitchen is all it takes! He was quite proud of his creation and it tasted lovely too. (My British friends are rubbing off on me but I quite like describing food as lovely!)


Of course no birthday is complete without presents. It reminds me again of the gift that Riley is to us. We are blessed...

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Holiday in Darjeeling


Our family had a lovely time in Darjeeling over the holidays. This was our view on the clearest day, the snow capped Kanchajunga range. We had all hoped to at least get a glimpse of snow and our wish was fulfilled. Every morning we would look out the window to see if the fog had lifted and blessed us with a view.


But even the fog had a beauty all of it's own.


Here the boys are standing under prayer flags with some friends from school who were also in Darjeeling. They had a lot of fun going to the zoo together and playing games back at the hotel.


My animal lover!


A highlight for the boys was having a pony ride.




A view of Darjeeling town from another window.


This is what I enjoyed almost more than anything - time to sit and read!


Austin and his dad took a class on making Momos.


We played lots of games.


Climbed lots of stairs - seems like everything is up and down in Darjeeling.


Waiting for breakfast on Christmas morning.


My little elf, singing to himself in the mirror.


Opening presents - a highlight for everyone!


Austin and I were the audience while the rest of the family put on a mini- Christmas pageant, with Pruitt being the director.


My in-laws as Mary and Joseph.

All in all, we had a great time. The trip to and from was long and grueling but it helped to be traveling with family. For those of you who don't know them, my in-laws make everything more interesting and I feel really blessed to have them here.

So, we saw beautiful things, beautiful people, rested, ate lots of good food, played, laughed, drank pots of coffee, went shopping, laughed some more and finally bumped our way back home to Dhaka!

Which really is a whole other story! First we were told that there was a strike and we would have to leave our hotel at 4 a.m. to get down the mountain on time to miss it. Then that was called off at the last minute and we left at at 8 instead (but oh, the drama that went on in the midst of it all as Austin tried to book a vehicle and find out the truth about the strike and our breakfast order getting misplaced...) So we made the journey down the mountain fine, had a couple hours till the bus left, so some of us went to a little shopping mall and picked up a few more goodies to take back to Bangladesh with us. I felt so relieved when we were finally pulling away on the bus, feeling like the rest would be a piece of cake. Little did I know...

An hour from the border we stopped in a long line of vehicles that were just sitting on the road. Here another strike was going on, a political party had blocked the road and refused to let anyone through. We sat and sat and I was beginning to think we were going to spend the night in some hut by the border if we didn't get there before closing. 2 hours later the police and border patrol turned up and cleared the road and we were on our way again. The bus driver had called ahead and asked the border guards to stay open a little longer for us and we were so grateful! As soon as we got off the bus, we were surrounded by a group of guys wanting to exchange money for us. We grabbed the kids in the darkness and went to the first hut to get our passports stamped - which took at least 30 minutes. As we were waiting, one of the guys told us that a Bangladeshi had been trying to cross the border illegally that morning and had been shot. From there we went to another hut that to go through customs. Before we knew it, porters had moved all our bags to the border crossing and when we got there the guards were asking us how many bags we had. By this time we had been traveling for nearly 12 hours, we were tired and it was pitch black. I had no idea how many bags we had or where they were. It didn't help that porters kept picking them up and in the darkness it was hard to tell who was who -which was why I felt more than a little freaked out, crossing no-mans land in the dark and hoped and prayed that both sides would know who we were and that all our bags would make it. I had visions of them mysteriously disappearing but it all ended well and the lights on the Bangladeshi side were quite inviting. We all grabbed pens and forms and filled them out in record time to hurry through immigration and headed for the bus with all our bags and all the children. Whew! Another sigh of relief! Later my mother-in-law asked me if I'd seen the corpse on a stretcher as we were having the struggle to count our bags at the crossing. I hadn't and was rather glad I hadn't!

By this time we were quite hungry and were told dinner break would be around 2 a.m. (which is not something we foreigners like to think about doing in the middle of the night but locals seem to be fine with it). So Austin quick bought a handful of hot parathas (fried flat bread) which tasted amazing, and we were once more on our way. We pulled into the bus station in Dhaka around 5 a.m. without further incidence - except the one when Riley woke up and let his lunch fly all over himself, his seat and my face. I'll leave it at that. Home looked so good!